"What does RSVP stand for?" is the most commonly asked question involving the RSVP cards that often appear in invitations to events. While this FAQ tackles that subject, it also answers other questions involving the delicate matter of RSVP etiquette.
What does "RSVP" stand for?
RSVP stands for the French phrase "Respondez, s'il vous plait," which translates literally to "Respond to us, if you please" or more casually "Respond, please." It is meant as a request for the guest to respond by answering "yes" or "no" to the invitation to an event. If you receive an invitation to an event that states RSVP, you should respond in the manner indicated. This may require an e-mail, a phone call or the return of a response card.
What does "Regrets" or "Regrets Only" mean?
If the invitation reads "regrets only," it means you do not have to respond if you can make it, only if you can't come. Remember, if you don't respond, it will be assumed you are attending the event.
Is it acceptable to invite your significant other if he was not listed on the invitation?
You might assume that your significant other is invited to a wedding or party, but the proper etiquette follows that you should only RSVP for yourself if your significant other is not listed on the invitation. If the party planner wanted to invite your significant other, she should have listed your significant other's name on the invitation or stated you and a guest were invited. It's possible your significant other was mailed a personal invitation, or maybe you will just have to go to this event solo.
What is the difference between a "Save the Date" and an invitation?
A "save the date" is an announcement card that tells people about an upcoming event, such as a wedding or a wedding reception. It is usually sent much further in advance of an event so guests can plan accordingly. An invitation is a formal invite to the actual event, giving the time, date, place and other necessary details. Invitations are usually sent out about six to eight weeks before the event. "Save the date" announcements should be sent only to people who will later be invited formally to the event.
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