Telling Adopted Children Their Adoption Stories
Sooner or later, adopted children need to know the truth. Some begin to suspect long before they’re told, while others react to it as a complete shock.
There’s no denying that this is an emotional journey both for adoptive parents and the adopted child. There’s no easy way to have the conversation or guarantees on how your child will react. The only way to prepare is to build an open and honest relationship with your adopted child and to confront the subject directly.
Honesty Is the Best Policy
When it comes time to tell a child that she’s adopted, every parent walks a fine line. Your adopted child has become your very own child. You feel as though you gave birth to her. She feels as though you are her biological mother. Should you disrupt her life by telling the truth? Should you tell her she’s adopted or should you keep living a lie?
Honesty is always the best policy. Telling the truth to adopted children is not only a good idea, it’s the best idea. No one wants to learn by accident that they were adopted. How traumatic would it be if someone else discovered the truth about your child and confronted him with it before you had a chance to talk about it? Your child might be so upset that he runs away. The trust you’ve worked all your lives to create will be severely damaged, perhaps forever.
Adopted Children Articles, Videos & HowTos
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