Why are people self-conscious? The answer to that question often involves an overactive media, which caters to the rich and famous, who can afford to fix any of the imperfections they're born with. When we see celebrities looking a certain way, we feel we must copy that look. If and when we can't, many of us feel doomed to be nobodies for the rest of our lives.
Many people are preoccupied with some aspect of the way they look, and the media makes it worse. What many people don't realize, however, is that even celebrities have bodies that are less than perfect. The difference is that they can have these imperfections changed or airbrushed away. The media and modeling industry are largely responsible for the rail-thin look that models portray, which in turn young girls try to emulate.
The Reasons For Self-Consciousness
Whether someone has an issue with how she looks or feels someone else has an issue with how she looks, she becomes self-conscious. And when people are unsure, they tend to clam up and keep to themselves, which makes for an unhappy existence that can lead to depression or worse.
However, body image is not the only reason people become self-conscious. People can be self-conscious for a variety of reasons, and many times the reasons are unfounded. For example, a person may feel inferior because he doesn't have a college degree. That feeling or emotion may be so strong in him that, when he speaks to someone who does have a college degree, he begins to imagine all sorts of negative vibes emanating from the person whom he now perceives to be more intelligent that he is. He begins to imagine that the other person is looking down on him, when in fact the other person may not even know he doesn't have a college degree.
The same thing takes place when a woman feels that her clothes don't look good because of her size. She may be the only one who feels that way. She is the one who created that negative thought and the negative feelings that go hand in hand with it. It's possible that she may in fact look just fine. Many times, it is the person themselves who decides they don't look good. Once she creates a negative feeling, the emotion grows and festers, and she becomes her worst enemy. If she hyper-focuses on her feelings of not fitting in her clothes perfectly, before she knows it nothing will be able to sway her from that emotion, and shame and self disgust will soon follow.
Unusual traits are not as easily fixed. If you feel you have a trait that makes you stand out or look different, you may begin to feel self-conscious. These thoughts of inferiority may cause you to shy away from interactions with others. Avoiding interactions that would cause everyone to stare at your unusual trait can be uncomfortable. But humans are social creatures, and human interaction is something we all gravitate toward. It's entirely possible that your unusual trait is prohibitive only to you and not to the rest of the world. And, if you really look at people, you will find that no one is perfect. Everyone has a flaw of some type-even if it's not immediately noticeable.
Improving Your Self Image
Building confidence often involves taking action. In order to begin self image improvement, you must try to correct the inconsistency you see in yourself. For instance, the man who feels he is lacking due to a college education could enroll in classes. By the same token, the woman who feels her clothes don't fit correctly because of her size can go on a diet to lose weight, gain weight or simply exercise so that-by her own standards-she fits into her clothing better.
However, you should make sure the inconsistency isn't a figment of your imagination. For example, you might not need to lose weight at all, but you feel the need to reach an impossible beauty standard. Before you embark on any self-improvement program, consult your doctor or an academic advisor. A third-person perspective can be useful in this situation. You might even realize that your self-consciousness has been holding you back.
Some people develop a distorted body image when their self-perception significantly differs from reality. We compare ourselves to others, particularly the media's portrayal of normal, which is, in itself, a distorted vision of a healthy body image.
This article will discuss the alternative to allowing your teen get a lip or body piercing.