Principles of the Authoritative Parenting Style

The authoritative parenting style requires a high level of involvement with the child. Authoritative parents spend lots of time with the child, encouraging verbal give and take, reasoning with the child in good and bad situations and listening to the child when she has issues with parental rules or demands.

Are You an Authoritative Parent?
The qualities of authoritative parenting styles include:

  • The child has a lively and happy disposition
  • The child is self-confident and has the ability to master tasks with confidence
  • The child is emotionally well-developed
  • The parent is less rigid about gender roles, allowing sensitivity in boys and independence in girls

An authoritative parent has firm control of the parent-child relationship, but does not restrict the child from learning from his mistakes. Authoritative parents realize that the child is an individual who has his own feelings and ways to do things. While acknowledging the child's individuality, the authoritative parent also sets standards for conduct. When the child makes a mistake that's worthy of punishment, the authoritative parent doesn't simply punish the child, she explains the bad behavior and the reason for the punishment.

Effective Parenting
Authoritative parenting styles works well, because the control that the parents have is fair and reasonable to both the parent and the child. The child understands the reasons behind the parents' actions, and is more likely to comply with the parents' wishes. The parents are nurturing in an authoritative way while providing a good role model for the child.

When a child is encouraged to be independent and original, she is more apt to communicate her feelings and wishes with her parents. This is especially beneficial to parents and the children during the teen years, when children need more direction to deal with peer pressure.

When a parent exerts firm control but does not overly restrict a child, the child becomes socially responsible and is able to control aggression because he is self-confident and has high self-esteem. The child learns the boundaries of socially acceptable behavior and is more likely to have good grades in school, make friends and be able to resist peer pressure.

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