The word "family" arouses soft feeling of intimacy, love and of mutual values. Children in a family play very important and attention-needed part. In a family, one of the main objectives is to raise the children as good as possible so that they achieve maximum happiness and success in their life.
Self-esteem, as the word represents, plays an important role in a child's attitude towards facing the world. Parents' opinion differs on how much importance should be given in developing a child's self-esteem. We can notice both types, one who gives much importance on developing child's self-esteem, while some parents attach no importance to this issue. Instead of passing judgment in anybody's favor, we can tackle this important family affair from another constructive angle. Instead of teaching self-esteem lessons, why not we help the children learn the right things as they grow! It is of prime importance that they must first recognize their worthiness and value in their own family, later on, in the society and ultimately in their country.
The importance of self-esteem is indisputable for a happy and successful life. It can be termed as one of the keys to success. A child's behavior can easily represent how he or she is feeling about himself or herself and, therefore, the level of self-esteem he or she has.
In a family, a child with high self-esteem is more likely to feel independent, opens to accept new challenges and harder tasks, shows sense of responsibility, his attitude towards dealing frustrating or emotional situations becomes positive and he can, knowing his own importance, extend helping hands to the needy, and so on. On the contrary, a child with low self-esteem most probably does not possess any of such desirable qualities. Moreover, feeling of being deserted, indifference to even important tasks, and unworthiness will emerge in their behavior. He will become an easily influenced subject to even the negative and destructive feedings.
Many of us do not know this fact that in a family parents' attitude towards their children plays a major role in developing the children's self-esteem. We must never forget this fact and apply all the possible means to boost our children's self-esteem. This can ensure its contribution in developing a healthy family, healthy society and of course a good citizen for the country.
Mentioned below are some of the ways which can certainly help our children gain the desired degree of self-esteem.
Praise the Good Doings
Unfortunately, some of us think that just pointing and criticizing a child's wrong doings, while neglecting his good deeds, will be enough to improve his characteristics. When you react negatively on his bad doings and keep quiet on his good doings, how he can know which of his deeds pleases you and what to avoid. So, never forget to appreciate and praise your child's good deeds, no matter of how low importance the act may be. You should actually be on the watch to note his good deeds to express yourself positively without delaying.
When you notice your child did something good, on someone's encouragement or on his own, express fully your encouraging words, full with praise and appreciation. Actually, as mentioned earlier, be on lookout to find the chances to express your thoughts, and then express plentifully.
Our thoughts directly influence our behaving pattern. One of the root causes of depression and anxiety in children, according to psychologists, is adapting the negative stream of thoughts about self. Children must be taught to address day to day matters with a positive frame of mind, of course by keeping within the limits of one's own capacity and capability. When influenced by negative thoughts, the child must be taught to reason positively with his own mind.
Do not Label Bad Name
Most of the children, unless taught and trained, keep their rooms or stuff messy. Here, if we notice such acts by our children, instead of sticking them with undesirable titles, we must encourage them to clear up the mess or do the things properly. While being critical to their actions, we must also express encouraging words so that the child feels the emotional encouragement and voluntarily starts doing the work properly. And once he does the work, reward him with praiseful words.
Be careful With Your Negative Comments
In a family atmosphere, we have to frankly address our day to day matters, including the wrong doings of our own children. While focusing our efforts on building a child?'s self-esteem, we certainly have to discuss or criticize on his wrong doings within elders, just for the sake of correcting the fault. This is essential, but we have to be careful that not a single, unwanted word be overheard by the child. He may be engrossed in playing, or just in light sleep and that he can over hear our negative comments. This can influence negatively the child's self-esteem.
In short, in a family, the elders are responsible to contribute their part in developing younger ones' self-esteem with careful and calculated approach. The above five tips can help us do this important task.
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