By: LuAnn Schindler
When your child was growing up, you taught her the danger of talking to strangers. Now that she's a teen, you need to deliver positive messages instead of scaring her. The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children reports that in cases involving long-term kidnapping, when the child is found alive, 85 percent of the victims did not consider the kidnapper to be a stranger.
Safety Reminders
Don't preach to your child. This method of discussion forces most teenagers to ignore your important message. Instead, keep the conversation open and offer to answer any questions. General rules worth following and reinforcing include:
- Practice safety in numbers. If you are going to be in public, be with a friend or group of friends.
- Tell an adult where you will be. (Assure your teen that you are not checking up on her. You want to be aware of where she is if a problem should arise.)
- Say -no' if you feel uncomfortable or threatened. Walk away from the person or situation.
- Ask an adult, a police officer, teacher or store clerk, for help if you need assistance. A mother with children would be a good candidate for finding help, too.
Practice Privacy
Gaming sites, social networking sites and instant messaging provide instant access to friends. Unfortunately, these technologies put your child at risk. Common sense safety practices should be used by your teen when she surfs the net.
- Monitor your child's online activities. This should not be seen as an invasion of your teen's privacy.
- Instead, by monitoring your teenager's surfing habits, you can thwart possible connections with strangers.
- Ask your child to use several e-mail addresses. Use a separate e-mail address for school, online shopping and social networking. Not only will this method reduce inbox clutter, it will also eliminate the potential of a stranger identifying your teen.
- Limit personal information listed on public sites, especially social networking sites. Your teen controls the amount of information listed on a site. Ask to see what she has written, and if necessary, modify.
Invest in secure technology. Run up-to-date security software as a front line of protection. Install a firewall, anti-virus software, anti-spyware and spam and phishing filters to protect privacy. - Explain why you have set parental controls on operating and gaming systems. Family-safety settings protect your teenager's privacy by limiting content and e-mail capabilities.
Parents of teenagers should establish an open line of communication regarding safety and danger from strangers.