There are many different communication styles and being able to communicate with all types of people is an important skill. Communication problems in relationships can lead to disaster. However, if you're dating a woman, it's important to identify her style of communication. If you can learn to speak her language, you can make a woman feel at ease and truly listen to what she has to say.
First off, realize that stereotypes aren't always true when it comes to communication styles. Some women are more verbal than men but some are not. Don't go into communicating with a woman expecting them all to want to talk about their emotions in depth or to carry the conversation. Different women have different ways of communicating, and if you don't realize this, it could lead to some big problems later.
Visual people are those who learn and communicate in a visual sense. If they were at school, they would be the ones taking notes. When they speak, they often talk about how to look at something or how to see it. When trying to tell a story to people with these communication styles, it may help to point to pictures while you speak or to even draw little diagrams. Something as small as your word choice can help improve your communication (i.e. fully describing the way things looked).
Auditory people are those that like to hear things. They learn and communicate best verbally. They're the sort who will want things explained out to their very last detail and will ask if they are being heard or if they are making sense.
People with kinesthetic communication styles, learn best through touch. These are touchy-feely people, the sort who do not always have personal space boundaries. They are the sort who will feel hurt or rejected if you do not respond to their touch. They like to be asked how they're feeling, and they're respond best to physical displays of affection.
The way someone communicates is important. If someone is passive-aggressive, they may beat around the bush and allude to things rather than saying them. Someone who is confrontational is more blunt and likes to solve or talk about things as soon as possible.
Avoiding communication breakdown means knowing where both you and your partner stand regarding the relationship. |