How to Build A Relationship With True Trust

Communication is hard. It is possibly the hardest, yet most important aspect of creating a healthy and strong relationship. So many relationships are built up and destroyed because two people that cannot understand each other. There are some who would say that it is impossible for two people to truly understand each other, but it is necessary to work towards that true understanding if we ever hope to be happy.

For many people, the hardest part of communication comes from fear; a fear of what the other person might say or react in response to a statement or question. Throughout their whole lives, people are submitted to constant judgment from peers, family and even co-workers. The key to absolute trust is to get past this fear, and realize that rarely do people get a second chance. Life is too short to live with regrets, it is also too short to be afraid and live a lie. Life is all about taking chances; love is just a place that it feels harder to take chances in. Remember this.  

There's a weird trend going around from people heading into relationships. Something called the "friend zone," a mysterious zone that once you step into destroys your ability form a relationship with the person you're interested in. It's weird how people tend to think of friends as separate from boyfriends or girlfriends. If anything, a previous friendship will only make a relationship stronger because there's already an existing trust there.  It is easier to talk to someone that you consider a friend about delicate issues rather than someone whom you only see as a boyfriend or girlfriend.  Everything from video games to sex to even personal habits are topics that most believe should stay between friends, lest their love look down on them. Another common problem people have is that whenever someone has an issue with the other person or with the relationship, they'll ignore it choosing not to talk, letting the problem build up until it explodes. You want to be honest. If there's something you don't like about the other person, you want to mention it and not be scared of confrontation. Destroying the weeds when they first come up will save the garden. It can be hard, it can be very hard, but life isn't easy and if being honest doesn't work out or the other person decides that they don't like you as a person, there is still reason to be happy. Instead of spending months letting the problem grow with neither person saying anything, time was saved and you can move on to find the person that will love you for who you really are.

On a final note, if you're attempting to become more open, you want to go all the way. Not being direct with communication is worse than not saying anything at all. This is where the term "mixed signals" comes from. If you want to say something, just come out and say it so there's no possible mis-interpretation. It can lead to unnecessary fights just because you weren't clear. Honesty is something that everyone will respect you for, even if the truth isn't something that you're proud of. Let's go over the key points:

1. Go into a relationship with the intent of becoming a friend first, boyfriend or girlfriend later.
2. Don't be afraid to talk about everything. You want to feel secure knowing the other person won't be judgmental and the only way to do that is to get over those fears!
3. If honesty leads to break up even while being genuine, realize that it's a good thing you two figured out your differences now rather than later.
4. BE CLEAR!!

Even if you falter sometimes, take a chance and speak your mind. Life is too short to hide yourself.