You have probably heard that good communication skills are one of the biggest keys to a successful relationship. Effective communication can make inevitable fights with your partner productive rather than devastating. Even beyond arguments, communication skills are an important piece of relationships from talking about your future to talking about what works in bed. Here are a few examples of good communication skills.
Asking for What You Want
Often in a relationship, men and women don't bother asking for what they really want because they think their other half will shoot them down. But many couples who try asking get what they want and feel more satisfied in their relationship.
Relationships aren't one-sided and work best as a give-and-take so don't be afraid to bargain. If you want to watch the game on Saturday offer to spend a day with the kids on Sunday.
Often, the words that come out of our mouths when arguing or asking for what we want can sound like complaints. Keep complaints to a minimum and try focusing on appreciation for the positive aspects of your partner instead.
If you get into an argument, don't place blame. To fight fairly, simply state facts about what truly happened and how you felt. Even if you felt sad, that doesn't mean your partner did something truly wrong. Wait for him or her to understand how the action made you feel and they may come around to your point of view quickly.
While listening may not seem like it falls within good communication skills since you aren't speaking, it's an essential piece of the puzzle. If you listen generously to what you partner is saying, hearing feelings and desires as well as chatter, you'll be able to offer a better and more caring response.
Modify As Needed
Another effective communication skill is to understand when you need to modify what you want. Sometimes you have to think about whether or not it's something that you really need to have and negotiate for just a piece of it or something more amenable to your partner.
If you're dating a woman, communication styles are something you need to know about. If you can learn to speak her language, you can make a woman feel at ease and truly listen to what she has to say.