Guide to Personality Traits

By: Jessica Straub

Considering how your personality traits match with those of your partner can help you tell whether your relationship will work out. Even though red is a bright, attention-grabbing color, do the red flags in a relationship seem to escape your radar? You may be head over heels in love right now, but that doesn't mean the love will last. 

First and foremost, you need to ask yourself if your eyes are open and if you are seeing yourself and your partner as you truly are. Why is that so important? Many of us tend to shut our eyes to the problems in a relationship. We don't always recognize the personality traits that are right in front of us But keeping yourself in the dark is going to be a lot more dangerous in the future then it would be to just honestly examine your companion right now. That way, there won't be any surprises later on that you'll be kicking yourself for.

Think of a list of things that really bother you about other people. The list can contain habits, hobbies, and goals. Ask yourself serious questions such as: Is your companion trustworthy, or do they lie about little things? Do they obsessively call and ask you what you're doing and where you are? Is their house clean? Do they get irritated easily? Then, think of how this might translate into your relationship, and how these personality traits could affect you.

Once you've established your red flags clearly in your mind, resolve to be truly honest with yourself, and then analyze your partner. Are they the type of person you'll want to spend your time with? Can you trust them? When you have an argument, will you be able to discuss things, or will it become a heated and unsafe environment? Do they have addictive personality traits and use drugs or alcohol to make them happy or have fun?

A good idea when examining your partner is to introduce them to friends or family. More often than not, your friends will be able to pick up on personality traits that perhaps you haven't noticed or that you weren't sure about. Your loved ones want what's best for you, so take what they say to heart, and really process their feedback.

If you do find personality traits that bother you in your partner, remember that they bother you for a reason, and you can't change a person. It's a warning for you to back up a few steps, and look at your partner with your future in mind. Life is so short, and there are plenty of people in the world with whom you can share it. If this person isn't going to make you happy, or they are going to create trouble, then be good to yourself and end the relationship. Just remember that the quality of your life really depends on you.

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