Dating can be confusing; it's hard to know if that single guy from work is interested in you or if he's just being polite. Is he really interested in getting to know you better, or is he bored and just passing the time? Singles need a few dating tips on how to tell a friend or acquaintance from someone who wants to get to know you better.
Signs He's Interested in You When You First Meet
You're celebrating happy hour with your coworkers, and there's a cute guy chatting with you at the bar. The following are signs you might get a date with him:
He can't keep his eyes off you.
Men are visual creatures. When a man sees a woman he finds attractive, he'll want to look at her again, and again, and again. If the new guy keeps throwing glances at you across the bar, there's a good chance he's seen something he likes. Watch where his eyes go. Is he checking out other women, or is his gaze constantly returning to you?
He moves closer to you.
If he makes a conscious effort to sit by you or get closer to you, you can bet you've gotten his attention. Leaning closer to talk to you or focusing his attention on just you and your conversation, is also a good sign that he's interested.
He jokes with you.
Women are attracted to funny men, and men seem to know intuitively that this is one of the more potent weapons they have in their romantic arsenal. If a man jokes with you and only you, you can assume he's interested in interacting with you more. If he jokes with everyone else in your group, he may just be having a good time being in the spotlight, but a private joke breeds a sense of intimacy, insinuating that he likes sharing a private laugh just with you. Flirtatious jokes or allusions to future contact are especially promising.
He modifies his behavior to mirror yours.
Nonverbal cues are often more telling than verbal cues. A person who is emotionally engaged with another person will often modify personal habits to mirror the person with whom they are interacting. So if he leans in to talk to you when you lean in to talk to him, or if he sits facing you with a pose similar to your own, know you've caught his attention and interest.
He casually mentions future contact.
If a man mentions wanting to do something with you in the future, you can assume he's interested in you and is trying to get a feel for if you are open to getting to know him better. Dating is challenging for all singles; you need to remember that he may also be trying to figure out if you are interested in him. If you mention that you play tennis and he says, "Maybe we could hit the ball around sometime," he's probably interested in you.
Signs He's Interested in You If You Work Together
Dating someone at work is always a little tricky, and, in some cases, can even be against work rules. However, when you work with someone forty hours a week, it's easy to develop feelings for that handsome, smart dude in advertising who is so funny in project meetings. How do you know if he's interested in you and not just playing around?
He stops by your desk even when there's no work-related reason.
If he stops by your desk for only work-related reasons, you can't take his attention or friendliness as any indication of interest. That being said, if he stops by to chat about other things, you can guess he's at least somewhat interested in getting to know you.
He holds your gaze a little bit too long.
If he holds eye contact with you for longer than he normally does, you may want to respond by also looking into his eyes for a split second longer than normal.
He compliments your new haircut.
Or your new skirt, or your earrings. If a man starts noticing and complimenting you on your appearance on a regular basis, you know you've got his attention.
He initiates having lunch.
Spending time together at work is always risky since coworkers may begin to gossip. If a man initiates lunch with you, even casually, there's a good chance he's interested in testing the waters and seeing if you are potential dating material. Just use caution and read over your work rules if you consider going out with him.
Signs He's Interested in You After the First Date or Two
You've gone out once or twice, and you're wondering if this relationship is going to go anywhere. Here are some signs he likes your style and is interested in seeing more of you:
He calls when he says he will and doesn't cancel dates.
A man who's interested in you will call you when he promises and will be eager to go out on his next date with you. He may not call often, though, as he might not want to appear overeager or desperate. The real sign of interest is if he says he'll call you over the weekend and he does.
It's obvious he put effort into planning the date.
A man will put in effort if he cares about impressing you. He'll remember what food you like and what you like to do, and he'll spend time on his appearance.
He makes plans with you in advance.
A man who is interested in you will realize that you have a life and that he might not be the only guy who wants to date you. He'll want to schedule a date with you instead of waiting until the last minute.
He's patient with you regarding how physical you want to be.
Look for a man who's patient and considerate. If a man is willing to let you set the pace, it proves he wants to see where the relationship is headed.
People often ask if there is romantic compatibility with a prospective partner. What makes two people compatible and do those standards apply to their current relationships?
Women sometimes get disappointed by men because they've misinterpreted signs the guy is not interested for signs that he's just a shy boy.Recognizing those differences might keep you from holding your breath while waiting for the phone call that never comes.
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