Is He Into Me Or Just Polite?

Research shows that one of a man's biggest complaints about the opposite sex is that they send mixed signals. Two out of three men expected a recent first date to turn into a second or even a third. Most never even received another phone call. Men are constantly frustrated with women who aren't interested, but act as if they are to be polite. But the same research shows that women have the same complaints about men. Two out of three women report being surprised when a first date didn't turn into a second one. It appears the dating world can be confusing for both men and women. Below are a few tips for women who are having trouble reading between the lines.

If He Buys One Drink, He's Being Polite. If He Buys a Second Round, He's Into Her. One round of drinks means he is mildly interested in getting to know her. Whether it's a date or a chance meeting at the bar, one drink means she caught his eye. A second and especially a third round means he likes what he's hearing and wants more. In short, he's into her.

If He Suggests a Lunch Date, He's Being Polite. If He Insists on Dinner, He's Into Her. It's been said that a lunch date puts women into the "friend zone." There are multiple theories as to why, but the most popular one is little comes after lunch. If women are lucky, coffee can come afterwards, but not much else. Dinner on the other hand, is late enough for dancing, more drinks, and definite proof that he's into her.

If He Gives Her a Hug, He's Being Polite. If He Gives Her a Kiss, He's Into Her. Research shows that a hug signifies a friendship, and is the nice way of ending a date that probably won't turn into much. While it is true that a hug can later result in feelings beyond friendship, the possibility is small. A kiss introduces the attraction and a second date. It is the most common way to express a mutual interest in intimacy. Whether the intimacy results in a relationship will take more than a few dates. But women who get to this point shouldn't question whether or not he's into her. It's there.

If He's Only Responding to Her Texts/Calls, He's Being Polite. If He's Initiating Them Too, He's Into Her If he's merely answering her phone calls or responding to her text messages, he's trying not to be rude. It usually means he doesn't feel a connection, which is why she always has to initiate conversation. However, the exception to this is always a shy man. A woman can tell the difference between a shy man and a disinterested one by the quality of conversation. For example, if he's not initiating the conversation but has a lot to say once a topic is chosen, he's just shy. But if he's only contributing short responses all the time, he's probably just trying to be polite, and eventually will tell her it's not going to work out. On the other hand, if he's initiating phone calls and text messages as well as responding to them, he's into her. Men are not always the best communicators, so the fact that he's keeping open lines of communication means he wants to get to know her He feels a connection and wants to keep it alive.

If He Invites Her Out on Group Dates, He's Being Polite. If He's Inviting Her Out on Both Solo & Group Dates, He's Into Her Group dates, much like lunch dates can put a woman in the friend zone. It's hard to get to know one person when there are multiple people around, and without alone time a woman quickly becomes a good friend. That said, a group date that turns into a solo date is the exception to the rule. Whether he pulls her away from the crowd or gives her some one-on-one time after everyone else leaves, it shows an interest in more than friendship. But the best case scenario is a combination of both solo and group dates. He takes her out on solo dates to get to know her and let the connection blossom into a possible relationship. Then he takes her with him on group dates to introduce her into his world while she is by his side.

There is nothing worse than feeling a strong connection with a man only to find out later that he just didn't know how to tell her he's not interested. This is usually the result of a lack of communication between men and women. While there's no solid solution to the problem, knowing a few tricks of the trade is always helpful.