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Title: Flirting Tips for Guys
By: Steve Thompson

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Flirting Tips for Guys

The best flirting tips for guys are those that leave room for individual personalities. Women don't like men who seem like cookie-cutter impressions of every other guy they've met in a bar. Instead, they want to be pleasantly surprised by, and pleased with, your authenticity.

Take, for example, the Web sites filled with come-ons guys are supposed to use for flirting. Don't you think that women read these Web sites, too—and laugh? If the first words you speak to a woman are words she's heard before, she'll be moving on to the next person in line without giving you a second thought.

Good Hygiene Speaks Volumes
You can know the best flirting tips for guys and still fail to meet a woman who will speak to you for longer than three seconds if you haven't paid attention to your hygiene. Take a shower, brush your teeth, shave your beard and put on a clean shirt. This is the best way guys can prepare for flirting, and will work better than any come-on line you've ever used.

Maintain Your Distance
Although there are exceptions to every rule, most women like men who can respect their personal space. When flirting, guys should maintain sufficient space between themselves and women they are interested in to make everyone feel comfortable. This doesn't mean you can't lean in conspiratorially every once in a while, but try to give her some breathing room.

Stand Tall
Guys have an easier time flirting when they exude confidence and masculinity at all times. Stand tall with your shoulders squared and your feet planted solidly on the ground. This communicates to women that you are self-assured and capable, which is infinitely comforting.

Put on Your Listening Ears
Remember in sixth grade when your teacher reminded you about your listening ears? And remember Psychology 101, where you learned the skills of active listening? Women can tell when guys are flirting but not really hearing what they have to say. Show you care—and that you are interested—by repeating things she's said and commenting directly on stories she's told.

The Eyes Have It
Most flirting tips for guys include some indication of eye contact, which is important. However, you don't want to stare holes in your date's eyes, making her uncomfortable. Try for a combination of eye contact and subtlety. Direct her attention to a favorite painting in the room or gesture toward an interesting piece of architecture.

Play Simon Says
Lisa Daily also recommends mimicking your date's actions. In other words, follow her lead. When flirting, guys should take their cues from women, which will also keep you out of hot water in case you're moving too fast. If she reaches out and touches your arm, reciprocate a few minutes later. If she sits back in her chair, you do the same. This demonstrates attentiveness and respect when flirting.

Get Real
Women are pretty astute when it comes to reading a guy's true feelings. Pretend that any insincerity will be immediately noted and archived in your date's mind. When flirting, guys should give only genuine, well-thought-out compliments. Even better, compliment her on something insignificant to let her know you're paying attention. This also signifies that you've made a special connection, which is paramount in flirting.

Welcome Healthy Competition...
Guys don't have to agree with everything a woman says to make flirting a success. Instead, be confident in challenging her on opinions and points of view. This can be as simple as a light-hearted argument over which TV show is better, Friends or Seinfeld, or it can be slightly deeper, such as a debate about foreign affairs.

...But Know When to Back Off
Flirting is not the time for guys to defend their territory. If you sense that a friendly debate is heating up too quickly, change the subject or try admitting that her points have merit. A fight is not a great way to end a date, and you want to show her that you are willing to accept other viewpoints as valid.

Get Out of the Gutter
When guys are flirting, their minds are almost assuredly drifting toward sexual thoughts, but keep those musings private. Don't make jokes, tell stories or ask personal questions about sex unless she instigates it. With flirting, guys should try to keep it as clean as possible, letting their dates take the lead when it comes to getting intimate—physically or conversationally.

Flirting is always a difficult subject for guys because it is natural to feel awkward around women they don't know. Use your awkwardness to your advantage to seem more endearing, and don't hesitate to let a woman know she makes you nervous.

Although you should remain confident as often as possible, it will be a compliment to your date that she puts you off your game. Just keep it positive and remember that she will be more attracted to you if you let your own personality shine through. In other words: Be yourself!