Few things say "Tonight's gonna be a wild night!" more clearly than a woman who's slipped into something more comfortable. But lingerie doesn't just make for great eye candy-it also says tons about the personality (and sexual proclivities) of the woman who wears it. So whether you're a gal wondering why you're nuts about cotton camisoles or a guy trying to figure out what to buy your honey for the holidays, let us help you decode the secret language of lingerie with the help of two experts: Ian Kerner, Ph.D., sex therapist and author of She Comes First, and Elycia Rubin, one of the original founders of The Style Network and co-author of Frumpy To Foxy In Fifteen Minutes Flat. What will this bedtime story reveal? Read on if you dare!
The Style: Cotton Camisole and Undies
He says: "The woman who wears the cami-and-undies combo is definitely not a girly girl," says Kerner. "On the contrary, she's quirky and confident-and appreciates a guy who's as straight a shooter as she is."
She says: "This girl is easygoing and sweet. Let's call her the girl next door," Rubin says. "She's fuss-free (no itchy lace or stiff underwires for this gal) and comfortable in her own skin." Plus, she won't be afraid to speak her mind-a trait many men will find refreshing.
The Style: Silk Baby-Doll Gown
He says: This woman may look innocent, but she's anything but. "She's a total flirt," says Kerner. If you're face-to-face with such a vixen, make sure to take things slow. "Foreplay is very important to her," says Kerner. "She enjoys lovemaking more than simply -having sex,' so make sure to give her tons of attention and playful pillow-talk afterwards."
She says: "A champion lash-batter and lip-puckerer, she's a woman who enjoys employing her feminine wiles," says Rubin. "She's a pro at manipulating men. Sure, she can be a tease at times, but it's always in the best possible way."
The Style: Matching Bra, Panty, and Garter Belt
He says: "Making people happy is her ultimate thrill," says Kerner. "In the bedroom, she's a very giving lover who goes above and beyond to pleasure a man. She'll get a kick out of knocking your socks off."
She says: "The goddess who wears this is 100% woman to the core," Rubin says. "She always takes the time to look and feel good. She wears a bit of lipstick to bed and applies it first thing upon waking, because she believes a woman should always be prepared for anything..."
The Style: Long, Flowing Satin Nightgown
He says: "This woman is the ultimate romantic," Kerner explains. "She wants to be swept off her feet. Her attitude in all aspects of life is, -Indulge me, seduce me, and treat me like the woman I am.'"
She says: "This is an old Hollywood glamour girl who carries the spirit of classic hotties like Eva Gardner and Jean Harlow," Rubin explains. "She always expects a man to treat her like the lady she is. If she could spend every minute of the day lounging on her chaise in a silk slip sipping pink champagne and listening to vintage Sarah Vaughn, she'd be in heaven!"
The Style: Corset and Thong
He says: "This is a woman who loves to role-play," Kerner says. "She enjoys the heady dynamics of taking charge or submitting to someone's will. The woman who wears this is not afraid to mix it up-she loves variety in all aspects of her life. She's got a wild, adventurous personality and is always open to new experiences."
She says: "This woman has fantasies of being a courtesan heating up hearts," Rubin says. "She's willing to take chances, live on the edge, and expects the same from her partners."
The Style: Comfy but Sexy Pajama Set
He says: In Kerner's opinion, this woman values deep intimacy over wild, abandoned sex. "In a relationship, she prefers snuggling and spooning over getting down and dirty. She lives to cuddle!"
She says: "She loves the classics-a good book, a rich espresso, and a warm dog at her feet (which is just as good as a warm man, in her opinion)," Rubin explains. "She is aware of her feminine side, but only lets it show to certain people. When she lets her guard down, you will know the experience is special and for your eyes only."
Julie Taylor, who has contributed to Cosmopolitan and Redbook, loves wearing her favorite cotton pajama set to bed.
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