When someone you love hurts you, it is so hard to not feel the deepest pain and betrayal. You may feel deceived, heartbroken, foolish or simply scared. Depending on how long you have known this loved one, the hurt may be fleeting, or it could be a lifelong scar that you are going to need to learn to deal with. The first thing you need to realize is that there is help for you. No matter who hurt you, there are friends, family, clergy or professional doctors who are there for you at your worst hour. Seek them out, and let them provide you with the help you need.
Trust Your Sadness With A Friend
When someone has hurt you so deeply that you are afraid to trust, it is crucial to find someone you indeed can trust as soon as possible. Sharing your hurt with a best friend, parent or sibling is important. Letting people into your world of hurt and sadness is the best way to find the support you need. If you don't have friends or family that you believe you can trust (perhaps they are the ones who have hurt you), you can seek professional medical care through a doctor or outpatient medical center.
Don't Let The Loneliness Grab Hold
It's easy to let loneliness take hold of you and not let go. This in turn gives you a constant flow of negative and self-defeating talk going through your mind, which is dangerous. You don't want to believe your negative self-talk, and it is important to keep your self-esteem and autonomy healthy and growing. Do your best to keep loneliness from taking over, keeping you locked up in solitude and without hope for the future.
Resist The Urge To Retaliate
When you have been hurt by someone whom you love dearly, you will certainly go through all the stages of grief, including denial, sadness and, worst of all, anger. This feeling is dangerous, as it makes us say and do things that we truly don't mean and would never dream of doing to our worst enemy. It is important while going through this stage of grief to resist the urge to retaliate. It could destroy any future chances of reconciliation, which is always the end goal when you and someone you love come to a disagreement that tears you apart.
Maintaining a friendship with an ex requires setting clear boundaries and not crossing them. Neither of you should hold out hope that you'll get back together, and you should give each other the same distance you would give your other friends. If either of you can't follow the rules, you're better off staying apart.
If you're considering ending a relationship, these tips may help.