Being happy being single isn't as difficult as you may think: Being single is definitely not the end of the world. If you take a step back, you'll see that the single life isn't that bad at all. In fact, it can be full of fun. Whether your single status is temporary or you're content living life without a permanent partner, being single can be a great adventure.
Think About the Present Rather Than the Future
Many people believe that a long-term relationship should be the top goal of their lives. Don't think about yourself as being all alone forever. Instead, look at the single life as one of freedom and flexibility. Personal happiness doesn't have to come in the form of a ring.
The key to enjoying the single life is to believe it's a life worth celebrating. If you see the situation in a positive light, you can enjoy yourself even more. Think about the freedom you have and the available options: You are not tied down to one person; you can go on as many or as few dates as you please. Or you can skip the dates and spend time with friends and family.
When you are single, try to get out and about so that you can meet new people-not just potential partners, but also potential friends. If you meet people who are potential dates, avoid carrying the excess baggage of marriage expectations. Often, if you place marriage expectations on a date or relationship, you might set yourself up for failure.
Additionally, though you may have had past relationships that failed, try not to think about these too much. You can learn from past events, but you don't want to get stuck reliving those events in your mind. Instead, process old relationships and their events, figure out what the experiences taught you and move on.
The last thing you need to do is to feel sorry for yourself because you are single. Remember that the single life affords you flexibility and freedom: You have no one to answer to but yourself, and this is the perfect opportunity to collect new experiences.
To start, think about what's offered in your community. Look in the local newspaper to see if there are concerts, festivals or other gatherings to which you could go. Think about volunteer opportunities that fit into your schedule. Additionally, consider your interests and try to look for activities you will enjoy. For example, if you are athletic, find out if there's a local pick-up game or any local amateur sports leagues you can join. Don't be afraid to try brand-new activities; you just might pick up a new passion or a lifelong friendship in the process.
Organize events that coordinate with your single life. For example, on Valentine's Day, throw a Pro-Singles Day party for yourself and your single pals. If you put yourself out there and aren't embarrassed about being single, you'll meet more people.
Keep in Touch
The single life is full of freedom, but you should take care to keep up with your friends and family members. If you are single, you will have more flexibility when it comes to maintaining contact with the important people in your life.
One downside of being part of a couple is that you get so wrapped up in the relationship that you aren't as good about staying in touch with others. If you're recently out of a relationship, then take the opportunity to make a few phone calls and write some letters.
Take Care of Yourself
When you're single, you have more time to focus on yourself. After all, when it comes down to it, you have only yourself to answer to or think of. Now is the time to invest in yourself and to treat yourself: Go get a massage or even a manicure, join a gym or take a day each month to buy yourself something new. Being kind to yourself does not only relate to your physical appearance. Think also about how to nurture your mind and spirit.
You can't sit around the house feeling depressed that you don't have a date. That will only make you more depressed. In practical terms, you also won't meet anyone if you don't interact with the outside world and continue to cultivate new interests.
However, feeling depressed or feeling afraid to establish new friendships or romantic relationships is a serious matter. An outside perspective might be what you need in this situation. At this time, your friends and family can provide you with a helpful support network, and you may want to speak with a therapist or counselor if you find it especially difficult to bounce back.
If you take care of your body and mind, your spirits will lift and personal happiness will be easier to obtain. A relationship is not the ultimate sign of success. Instead, take time to nurture all sides of yourself: physical, mental and emotional.
Here, a checklist of experiences to try before settling down.