When you're single, it's normal that people will want to know about your dating life. Though it may be annoying to explain why you are single and not married, if you take it in stride and have answers ready, you can turn the situation into a positive.
"Why Aren't You in a Relationship?"
People are curious creatures. If they care about you, chances are they will hope that you find love and end up in a relationship. This doesn't mean that a relationship is right or appropriate for everyone, but it does mean that people will inquire about your dating status.
When people ask this question, you can handle it in a few ways. First, you could make a joke about it and say you are married to your job or dating your favorite televisions now. This kind of joke is a subtle hint that you don't want to talk about your dating status. Second, you can ignore or change the subject. If you are pressed further, you can explain that your dating status is private and not for public discussion.
Finally, the last way to deal with this question is to explain the reasons why you are or are not in a relationship. This last option is generally best with people you trust.
Along with this question, people might ask you if you are too picky or if you want their advice. Be aware of this when thinking about your response. Your response might be the same for every single person who asks, or it could be tailored to the kind of relationship you have with him or her. For example, you may make a joke if your parent asks you about your dating status, but you might go into the specifics if your best friend asks.
"Do You Want Me to Set You Up?"
You might be tired or wary of blind dates, especially when you're set up with people with whom you have little in common. Though this question may frustrate you, think about the intentions of the people asking you this question. Often, they just want you to be happy and are trying to help, even if you didn't ask for their dating advice.
If you do not want to be set up on a date, explain that you are thankful for their offer, but you have to decline it. Explain to anyone who is persistent that you can find your own dates. If you thank them for their offer but remain firm, you will avoid hurting their feelings, especially if they just want to help.
"When Are You Getting Married?"
This question can be particularly hard to deal with, especially if you don't plan on marrying. Be aware that some people see marriage as a sign of success and security. Even though you do not share this perspective, be aware that people are only asking because they care.
You can handle this question in a number of different ways. Humor is the go-to response, but you can also explain what marriage means to you. For example, you can explain that you're still looking for the right person or that you don't want to rush into marriage. If you don't plan on marrying, explain that you don't need a slip of paper to tell you that you are married or in love or in a relationship. Giving people reasons for your decisions will not only curb their questions but will also shed some light on your personality and goals for life.
If you don't want to talk about the subject, it's okay to say so. This is your life. Don't feel as if you have to explain all of your choices. Simply say that this is a private matter and one that you don't want to talk about. Most people, especially those with whom you are close, will respect this. If a person doesn't listen, feel free to remove yourself from the conversation.
Unsolicited Advice
You will run into people who will try to give you dating advice, especially if you're single. Don't shut yourself off to the advice or questions; someone may say something that you may find useful. Instead, thank them for their perspective, and guide the conversation to a different place.
If the advice or questions are very personal and make you uncomfortable, tell this person and move to another group entirely. At this stage, it's best to explain why you want the conversation to end or why you feel the way you do.
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