Basic Advice for Women Coping with Divorce

Coping with divorce is an incredibly difficult thing. Not only do you have to face the end of your marriage, but you have to navigate a sometimes foreign and often complicated system to legally end your union, work out assets and draft custody agreements. The following is some divorce advice for women who don't know where to begin.

First off, be sure you want a divorce. You should never use divorce as a threat. Secondly, you'll need to find the right lawyer for you. Ask friends and family members if they know of good lawyers and feel free to shop around. This isn't a time to settle. You want a lawyer who listens to you, offers you your options and seems keen on ending this as soon as possible. Meet with as many lawyers as you can, ask for their pricing, and think about with whom you feel the most comfortable.

Once you've settled on a divorce lawyer, ask as many questions as possible. They are the best people to talk to when it comes to legal matters. Ask about assets, contracts and costs. Write everything down. You should know not only all of the options available to you, but you should also know what the divorce process will look like.

Know that there are two main categories for the grounds for divorce, no fault and fault. Fault grounds mean that one person was the catalyst or reason for the end of the marriage, whether through infidelity, abuse or another reason. No fault means that this was a joint decision, with no one person being the main reason for the marriage's dissolution.

Gather all of your financial documents, both individual and joint, so that you know what you're dealing with. Know that you will have to file for divorce and that this costs money.

Know what you want out of this divorce. Do you have kids? If so, think about the kind of custody that will be best for them and for you. If you have joint property, think about what you can live without and what you must have. If you have a basic list of things that you want out of or solved by this divorce, be sure to bring them up with your lawyer.

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