Figuring out when to break up can be stressful. When things start going downhill, you need to find the right time to end your relationship. Here, a few pieces of breakup advice that can help you decide when it's right.
You've Talked It Out
If you want breakup help, consider this: any break up will be easier if you don't catch your partner by surprise. Even if you're sure the relationship can't be saved, give your significant other the benefit of the doubt and talk about what's bothering you. Once you've given him or her the heads up that you're not happy, you can start planning when to break up.
Be Mindful of the Date
No one wants to get dumped on a birthday, anniversary, Valentine's Day, Christmas or any other day that has a major significance. If her cat dies or he loses his job, save the breakup for another day. The night before a job interview or a parent's surgery would also be insensitive. That said, don't keep putting it off. If you try hard enough, you could probably find a reason not to break up every single day, but it's better to do it sooner than later.
Make a Clean Break
Right after the breakup, it's best to stay away from each other for a while. Even if you hope to be friends later, you'll get over each other faster if you keep your distance until you're sure you won't have an urge to get back together. So as you decide when to break up, try to pick a time when it'll be easy to stay out of each other's lives. If you have plans to attend a wedding next weekend together for mutual friends, you might want to wait it out a week.
Don't Wait Until It Gets Ugly
If you know it's over, it's time to end it. That's one piece of breakup advice you should not ignore. You could him and haw about when to break up for months, but if you wait too long, you could make matters worse. If you're already fighting, the fights could escalate and you could end up saying things you don't mean. Breakups are hard on both parties and they get harder when the insults start flying. Also, if you're unhappy and ready to move on, you should break up before you're tempted to cheat. The last thing you want is to have your significant other catch you with your new fling before you found the nerve to cut ties.