Five Things To Know Before Committing
When two people first start dating, they put on their best sides. They reveal only snippets of information to each other, leaving the full story for when the person really gets to know them. Basically, we wait until we have them tangled in our web of niceties to crush them with the sad truth that we are really an awful, despicable person.
All kidding aside, there are some serious issues you need to figure out before you make the plunge and change your Facebook status from “single” to “in a relationship.” Here’s a look at five potential dealbreakers and how to spot them.
1. Marriage/Kids
When I was a kid, my idea of a fun weekend was making fake wedding invitations and giving fake birth to my baby doll. That might make me extremely weird, I don’t know. What I do know is that I’ve wanted a family of my own since I could remember, and there’s no point in me being with someone if they don’t want the same thing one day.
What to look out for: Next time you’re out to dinner or laying in bed, ask him where he envisions himself in ten years. Does he see himself being married with kids? If he says no and you know this is something you absolutely want, now is the time to think long and hard about the future of this relationship.
2. Annoying Habits
When you’re only seeing someone a few days a week in the beginning of a relationship, it’s hard to see what annoying habits or hobbies they have. When he casually says “I love to play golf” or “I’m a bit messy,” you might think it’s just a cute part of his personality. What he might really be trying to tell you is that he plays golf every weekend all weekend, and the only way his apartment looks clean is when he shoves everything under the couch before you come over.
What to look out for: Ask him what some of his favorite things to do are when he’s not with you, and how often he does them. Unless you’re okay with being a Sports Widow, you should know what you’re getting into. As far as the cleanliness issue goes, give his apartment a good look through next time you’re over. If it’s a pig sty, chances are it will be that way when or if you decide to move in together. This isn’t a huge issue, but unless cleaning turns you on, you should put a housekeeper on speed dial.
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