Untying The Knot

 When two people come together to begin a relationship ,many are caught up in a swirl of emotion based solely on the physical attraction. Most fail to take into account what is going on behind the scenes. Did you realize that a union happens simultaneously in one's spirit? Failing to understand that man is made up of three parts can lead to misunderstanding yourself; but it can also lead to misunderstanding what is going on in your interpersonal affairs with your partner. Man lives his life in three dimensions:body,soul,and spirit. These three worlds are intricately woven together and are constantly colliding. It is no wonder, then, that many lovers bump into relational issues quickly after beginning an affair.

When two persons, irregardless of gender, come together in a sexual way, they  create a bond in the natural, without a doubt. But in a far more lasting way, they are linking up in the realm of the soul and in the realm of the spirit. Think about how you feel after you have been with your partner. Even during the sexual act itself, aren't your emotions in full swing? They are! They are responding to what's occuring in the physical arena. But in the realm of the spirit, there is far more going on than meets the eye! In Genesis 2:24 it talks about man and woman coming together (but the same is true of woman to woman or man to man). And it uses a word in Hebrew that refers to the sexual act of "joining together." Most of us know and for the most part, understand that But it also uses a term of intimacy to mean, "glued together." In other words, when a sexual act is performed, the two persons are glued together forever and ever! Most of us don't see a sexual union in that way. But let's look at what that could mean in terms of the current and past relationships you have been involved in.

When two persons engage in sex, a bond is formed in the spirit. This bond  is called a soul tie. And because this soul tie glues the partners together, they are forged with a union long after they are sexual partners! If you can imagine, for a minute, the number of parners you have had like a chain. Picture each link  on that chain representing a different partner. Then picture, with me, in succession, each time you have had sex with each of those partners. Did you realize the links are still glued to you through every act of intimacy? In other words, when you sleep with your current partner, you are also sleeping with the partner you had before him and the partner he had before you!  This has application in gay and lesbian affairs as well. In lieu of  this, it is no wonder there are many relational issues between partners that are left unresolved. The realm of the soul and the realm of the spirit are dimensions that you can't put your finger on. They're not visible, and so issues in these realms are much harder to detect.

Understanding a little more about this unseen realm in your relationships will help you as you begin to understand why affairs end so quickly after starting out. Especially affairs that seemed too good to be true! Untying the knots in previous relationships with previous partners would greatly enhance your chances of having  longer term relationships!  Of course, soul ties only represent one of the issues that hinder intimacy in relationships. There are other issues that prevent closeness in couples.You are a wonderfully complex person by the design of God.  If you can begin to remember some of these things in the context of your relationships, then you will have a better chance of  more lasting enjoyment with each partner you pursue.