Dealing with Your Boyfriend Problems

No one wants to have boyfriend problems. In fact, having such issues in one's life can complicate things. However, instead of throwing up your hands, throwing a glass at his head and walking away, consider taking a breath and considering your options.

If you're having boyfriend problems, talk to your friends and family members and ask for their advice. How do they view this situation? Do they words of wisdom about what you and he could do differently? It can help to have an outside perspective when confronting the boyfriend problem.

Realize that there are always going to be complications when it comes to dating: It's how you deal with these problems that matters. It's normal for you and your boyfriend to argue, but if you argue more than you laugh, then there's a real problem going on. Take a moment to consider what it is you argue about: If it's always about jealousy or money, then you can think about how to work on the problem together. If you argue about everything, such as who drives or has control over the remote control, things might be more serious.

Bring up the issues with your boyfriend and ask him what he thinks the two of you should do. It's important that you not act confrontational in such situations. It takes two people to tango. The problems you have with your boyfriend are not only his; they're your problems, too.

Listen to how your boyfriend feels and respond using "I" statements. If you own your feelings, it makes working things out easier. Come prepared to this conversation with some solutions and be prepared to take some blame. Try putting yourself in his shoes when he explains his point-of-view, and keep a level voice.

If things don't improve, consider the relationship. Is this man the love of your life? If you the answer is no, then it might be time to break things off. Love doesn't always last forever and some people aren't meant to be together forever.

However, if you can't bear to break things off, ask your boyfriend if he'd consider couples counseling. Sometimes, people have to learn how to be in a relationship and how to communicate before things can get better. Having a mediator help the two of you through your problems just might save your relationship. 

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