Getting Him to Do Chores

Split the chores is important. However, even in the most caring and equal of relationships, he may have trouble keeping up with the household duties expected of him. Don't give up hope: There are a number of strategies to use to help inspire your husband or boyfriend to pick up a mop or take out the trash.

First off, make sure to always keep your tone level. Yelling or nagging could not only keep your boyfriend or husband from doing the chores, but it could also eventually harm your relationship and place a wedge between you.

Part of the problem may be that your loved one isn't sure which chores need to be done and when. Think about making a chart with each of your names attached to specific tasks. Think about sitting down with your loved one and making a time deadline for each day's tasks. This way, he still has flexibility over when to take out the trash, but he also has a deadline to keep in mind. Visuals help, so hang the chart where he can't miss it, such as on the refrigerator, on the back of your home's front door or near the bathroom mirror.

When you divvy up the chores, ask your man which chores he enjoys or doesn't mind doing. If he thinks washing the dishes is meditative and relaxing, think about giving him this chore. If he hates doing the laundry, don't give him this chore. People are more likely to finish chores they don't mind or enjoy doing.

Make sure to give your man praise when they do complete a chore. Don't overdo it or talk in a baby voice because he might think you're talking down to him, but be sure to make it known when you notice him helping out. This will encourage him in the future. For example, if your husband or boyfriend cooks dinner, make sure to thank him and note something you particularly enjoyed about the meal.

Try doing chores together. Not only is this a chance to spend time together, but it will make the tasks more enjoyable. For example, make Sunday morning chore time: clean the kitchen together (i.e. one of you can wash dishes and the other can dry). Put some music on to make the chores a little less dull.

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