Passion. We all want it, we crave it, we need it, but sometimes when we want it most it just isn't there. So, how can you bring sexy back into your bedroom and kindle passion under the covers? A few quick and easy ideas can add spark to your marriage.
Wrap It Up
Yourself, that is. Adorn yourself in something sexy, whether it is lacy, racy, flirty or wild. Nothing says romance and playfulness like a person all wrapped up in lingerie and topped off with a bow. You are the romantic gift, so light a fire, pique your spouse's interest and let the unwrapping begin.
Don't use the same old lingerie you've had in your drawer for years, either. Get something totally hot, totally new, something that makes you really feel sexy. The selections out there are astounding. You can even take it up a notch from regular lingerie to costumes that really get the imagination going. Let your imagination run wild, and see what kind of sparks fly. You can often get matching and complimenting costumes for your spouse as well, such as a doctor or patient to a nurse, a convict to a police officer or a sheik to a harem girl. Have fun with it.
Get Scentual
Numerous studies have been performed about the power of scent in connection with sexual arousal. Use the right scents to aid in seduction. Dr. Alan Hirsch's studies found cinnamon rolls, pumpkin pie and lavender to be on the top of the list for scents that turn men on.
Dr. Winnifred Cutler has performed numerous studies on a different kind of scent, the human pheromone, which is often undetectable but extremely powerful. Pheromones have been proven to increase sexual contact and arousal between the sexes, especially when both members use corresponding pheromones for their sex.
Start your seduction at your bedroom door with lightly scented candles, spray some pheromones on your sheets and make sure to adorn yourself with them. You'll be surprised by how sexy you both feel.
Get Physical
Get physical in and out of the bedroom. And that doesn't mean just sex. Exercise. Get moving. Being healthy all over and being physically fit can have a major impact on your sex life. Your coordination and circulation is better. Plus, you have muscles in all the right places to keep you strong and increase stamina.
Play Together
Act like kids, laugh, have fun. Go rock climbing, hiking, take dance classes, go out and play volleyball or try something a little more adult and private. There are all kinds of naughty games and toys for adults to try out, from naughty card games to dice with sexy commands, to erotic board games that encourage you to share fantasies and make them come true. Find something that gets your motor running and the sparks flying.
Give the Gift of Yourself
One of the most romantic gifts you can give your partner is yourself. Set aside some time to totally focus on the other person, from a sexy, relaxing bubble bath to a hot and steamy massage. You do all the pampering and just let them lay back and enjoy. He or she will be happy enough to return the favor soon.
The Sensual Feast
Food and sex have been connected since the beginning of time. Many foods have been labeled as aphrodisiacs through the ages, from asparagus to oysters to chocolate. Some of the powers of these foods are based in facts, while are mere myth. The key to setting up a romantic feast is first of all the setting. You want to set the stage for romance, candles, wine, sensual colors, and a variety of food textures and tastes. Try a romantic picnic in the park or, for more privacy, a picnic in your own backyard or living room. If you get really comfortable, you can use your own body as a serving dish.
Finger foods, or anything that you can feed to each other easily, work best for sexy feasts. Chocolate-covered strawberries are divine. Use the flavors that the two of you like best. And don't worry about dessert. You are the dessert.
Get Creative
Do you have the drive but not the creativity? Check out 101 Nights of Grrreat Sex by Laura Corn. This book has 101 ideas and scenarios for him and for her to try out on each other. Find inspiration in books and film, and don't be afraid to talk with your partner about trying something new.
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